谎言的背后[SIZE=3][FACE=Times New Roman] [/SIZE][/FACE][SIZE=3]今天，我遇到了当班主任以来从未有过的事。事情是这样的：[/SIZE][SIZE=3]我的班上有个非常内向的男孩，也是一名低龄学生，他什么事都没有主见，总[FACE=Times New Roman] [/SIZE][/FACE][SIZE=3]是说他妈妈让他做什么。我与他的妈妈接触过几次，凭感觉，他在家幸福。[/SIZE][SIZE=3]我认为这样的孩子应该内心很健康，所以从未想到会有问题出现。这天是周日返校，班长领他来找我，俩人哭的泪人似的，我很奇怪。急忙问班长是怎么回事。班长边哭边说：[FACE=Times New Roman]”[/SIZE]老师，他太可怜了，他已经两天没吃饭了，还说自己不想活了。[FACE=Times New Roman]”[/FACE]我感到很纳闷，于是让班长先回教室。[/FACE][SIZE=3][FACE=Times New Roman] [/SIZE]我让他坐在沙发上，给他盛好饭，命令他吃完。等他稍微平定后，我问他“[/FACE][SIZE=3]你不要害怕，告诉老师发生什么事了？[FACE=Times New Roman]”[/SIZE]他边哭说[FACE=Times New Roman]:”[/FACE]我爸爸经常打我[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我晚上经常做噩梦[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]白天脑子昏沉沉的[FACE=Times New Roman].”[/FACE]我一听就很生气[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]家长怎么能这样呢[FACE=Times New Roman]?[/FACE]我安慰了他一会儿[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]先让他回到教室[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我想先问好情况再说[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]我边往教室走边给他爸爸打电话[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]没料到他在外边等着[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他发疯似的抢我的手机[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]不让我给他爸爸打电话[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]我只好先骗他回教室[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]他爸爸的回答让我非常震惊[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他在家从来没有被打过[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]我预感事情不妙[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]通知家长速来学校[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我急忙到教室[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE][/FACE][SIZE=3]推开教室的门[FACE=Times New Roman],[/SIZE]我惊呆了[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]一时不知所措[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]讲台上[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]班长正在数钱[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]五角的[FACE=Times New Roman]\[/FACE]一元的[FACE=Times New Roman]\[/FACE][/FACE][SIZE=3]十元的[FACE=Times New Roman]-------[/SIZE]整整齐齐摆在讲桌上[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]下面一片抽噎声[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他们一个个哭的泪人似的[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我脑子清醒了一下[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]问班长[FACE=Times New Roman]:”[/FACE]这是怎么回事[FACE=Times New Roman]?””[/FACE]老师[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我们都知道了[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]没告诉你[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]就自作主张让同学们捐款了[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]一共二百多[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]替他交伙食费吧[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我们把零花钱全交了[FACE=Times New Roman].”[/FACE]我想了想说[FACE=Times New Roman]:”[/FACE]你们不用着急[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]这件事情我会处理好的[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]先做作业[FACE=Times New Roman].”[/FACE]我手里拿者这沉甸甸的钱走出教室[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]说实话[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]这真让我丈二和尚摸不着头脑[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]怎么办呢[FACE=Times New Roman]?[/FACE]我提醒自己要冷静[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]家长很快到了[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我把事情说完[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]家长说[FACE=Times New Roman]:”[/FACE]这绝对不是真的[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他很胆小[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他妈妈照顾的他很周到[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]从没有受过委屈[FACE=Times New Roman].”[/FACE]我们商量了一会儿[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]还是找他当面谈谈[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE][/FACE][SIZE=3]我再次回到教室[FACE=Times New Roman],[/SIZE]他身边围着一群男生[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]有拿着香肠的[FACE=Times New Roman]\[/FACE]有拿着面包的[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]正在劝他[/FACE][SIZE=3]吃饭[FACE=Times New Roman].[/SIZE]我把他叫出教室[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]没敢告诉他他父母来了[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]推开办公室的门[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他看到自己的妈妈[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]伤心的哭了[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]我说让他哭会吧[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]一会再问[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]过了好一阵[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他稍微放松了[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他妈妈问他这是为什么[FACE=Times New Roman]?[/FACE]他说[FACE=Times New Roman]:”[/FACE]我觉得很自卑[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]什么也不如别人[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我觉得他们瞧不起我[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]就骗他们说我在家里挨打[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]不给我饭吃[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我想让他们同情我[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]可我没想到他们都信以为真[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我又不知道该怎么办了[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]怕同学们会恨我[FACE=Times New Roman].”[/FACE]听了他的话[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我心里很不是滋味[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我问他妈妈[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]孩子以前有这样的事吗[FACE=Times New Roman]?[/FACE]他妈妈说[FACE=Times New Roman]:”[/FACE]这事也怪我[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]总认为他还小[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]又没有离开过家[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]怕他不会处理事[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]告诉他不能这样[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]不能那样[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]孩子可能太在意了[FACE=Times New Roman].”[/FACE][/FACE][SIZE=3]事情基本上清楚了[FACE=Times New Roman],[/SIZE]可怎么结尾呢[FACE=Times New Roman]?[/FACE]又怎样向学生解释呢[FACE=Times New Roman]?[/FACE]我很着急[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]这说明孩子的内心很脆弱[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]需要锻炼[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]我想了想说[FACE=Times New Roman]:”[/FACE]这样吧[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我给你两条道路选择[FACE=Times New Roman]:[/FACE]一是[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]把你今天的谎言揭穿[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]你把真相告诉同学们[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]向他们道歉[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]请求他们的原谅[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]二是[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]将错就错[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]让你爸爸承认打你的事实[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]并保证以后不再犯这样的错误[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]让你爸爸去做一次坏人[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]你选吧[FACE=Times New Roman]?”[/FACE]说实话[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我在给他心理上施加压力[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他如果走不出这个阴影[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]以后就更难了[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]他想了好长时间[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我又告诉他[FACE=Times New Roman]:”[/FACE]谎言总是会揭穿的[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]你瞒过今天还有明天[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]你心理总会不舒服的[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]因为你怕面对大家[FACE=Times New Roman],.|”[/FACE]我看到他不再犹豫了[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]说[FACE=Times New Roman]:”[/FACE]老师[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我去向同学们说明真相[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]这样[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我就好受了[FACE=Times New Roman].”[/FACE]我赞许的点点头[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]长舒了一口气[/FACE][SIZE=3][FACE=Times New Roman].[/SIZE]最后[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他的诚恳得到了同学们的谅解[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]我又借此事教育学生如何排解忧愁[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]学会调空自己的情绪[FACE=Times New Roman].[/FACE]但这件事受教育最深的还是我本人[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]它提醒我[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]要及时发现学生的不良情绪[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]尤其是那些性格内向的孩子[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]他们看似外表平静[FACE=Times New Roman],[/FACE]内心却是孤独的[FACE=Times 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